Is it just me, or does the very thought of this word make your skin crawl?
I was in a business meeting months ago with a woman that was about 15 to 20 years older than me. She was definitely Real Housewives material, besides the fact that she was selling ads for a local magazine. There was something about her that I hated. She was successful, well put together and very pretty. But that wasn’t why, especially since I am all about strong women. As we were leaving the meeting there it was ringing in my ear. She called me “sweetie”!! Ughhh!!
Now don’t get me wrong there are appropriate times to be called “sweetie” like from your dad, mother, grandmother or grandfather. There are also appropriate times to use the word “sweetie” like when talking to a toddler or referring to an animal.
When it comes to equal relationships or business relationships you should never be called “sweetie”. Call me a feminist but there is no equivalent to call a man. I find it incredibly demeaning and as if someone is taking pity on me. Gross!!
In my relationships I always want equality. I am not a sugar baby or a housewife. And let me just say this now, there is nothing wrong with being either of those things, it just doesn’t do it for me! If I want to be equal to a guy then why would I let him call me “sweetie”? If I want to be taken seriously at all why would I continue to let someone call me “sweetie”?
You might be asking yourself what to say when someone calls you sweetie. Well, check these texts out from someone I was dating:

Note: He seems offended. Also the blurred out word is not bitch! It’s my name. Which is what I prefer to be called. Later that night my date asked me about the whole sweetie thing. I explained that it makes me want to vomit and is very demeaning. I also asked him what I should call him back? He had no answer.
A couple days later I got this text:

You may think he was just trying to get in my pants. Wrong. We already had sex.
You might be one of those people, like my cousin, that has no problem being called “sweetie”. Great. Next time someone tries to call me “sweetie” I will point them in your direction.